Food Basics – Really?


Of all the places to grieve – why would it be Food Basics?

Seriously – today I phoned the lawyer, the appraiser, the banker, the butcher, the candle-stick maker – and it was all good.  They said, “I’m sorry for your loss.”

I replied, “Thank-you.  He had a good life and my brother and I were there in the end holding his hand.  He was in no pain.  What more could one want?”

Confidently, I moved forward to take care of my own family.  I gathered the grocery bags – thought nothing of it other than, boy after three weeks of no groceries, we need food.  I gather the grocery cart and maneuvered it from the parking lot (thinking how good I was to save the staff from one “rogue” cart) into the store.  To the right of me were towers of snacks – to the left piles of fresh items on sale.

I selected my usual apples, bananas, and fresh veggies… and then I hit the meat isle.  It started then.  Should I buy fish for Dad? What kind of fish was available? Should I buy pork for Dad – what kind of pork was on sale?  Dad could eat pork as it was soft.  The roast beef on sale threw me the first curve ball … Mom’s last request:  “Mom, is there anything I can do for you?”

Mom:  “There are two lovely roast beefs in the freezer – please cook them.” (hence the thought that this would be Dad’s first meal in Heaven).

Off to the next isle – I spot the pudding.  Ana asked me to pick up more pudding for Dad.  Pudding was his evening snack with pills.  I rolled the cart quickly past that isle thinking, “oh, man, I hope I can hold this together.”

Sausages – crap – that’s what Tessie cooked him every morning.  Move on, Stacey.

Yogurt – Dad needs some to blend for his morning shake … crap… move on.

Cream – um… well.. move on.

Butter –

Cauliflower for soup –

Ice Cream for the kids so Dad can offer them some sweet trea…. forget it…

Cleaning supplies…



Gatorade is on sa…


I’m out of here.

I could barely hold it together.  Imagine – of all places to fall apart – why would it be the grocery store?

Dad:  You were right.  It was roast beef.

Stacey:  I bought one today, Dad.

Dad:  TTFN

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2 thoughts on “Food Basics – Really?

  1. Chatter Master

    Because all of the things you did for your dad, though maybe done without much thought, were very important little things. Now you have to think to “not” do them. Your dad was very lucky.

    • Nice way to put it – that explains things. You are so right – the little things matter so much more than the big things.. which are so “in your face”. No one knew what groceries I bought – really – well, the Nannies and I.. I guess those quiet moments count a lot.. And I was lucky to have my Dad. Thanks Chatter Master.

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